How to keep your relationship sizzling

Are you in a relationship that is boring and you don't know what to do to spice it up?

  • Send frequent (but not too frequent otherwise you look desperate) text messages that say "Your number 1 in my life" or just say something sweet.

  • Go out on dates more often.  Call them up and ask if they are free for dinner on Friday or whatever you both love to do together.

  • Always say I love you and always mean it.

  • Buy each other little gifts just to say I love you and that you were thinking about the other.

  • Fight for each other and not against each other.  It's always sexy when your boyfriend or girlfriend sticks up for you.

  • Send them flowers or put them on their doorstep, ring the door bell and run. (the trick is to keep it as exciting as when you both first met cause those were the best times)

  • Have a picnic at the park or beach planned with little sandwiches and cookies or something.

  • Give the other a massage if they had a bad day at work or you just feel like giving a free one.

  • Always kiss and hug each other and hold hands to stay connected physically.  Sometimes life throws you curves and you don't have very much time together but when you do have time, make it wonderful.

  • Call each other unexpectedly.

  • If you do have some extra money take them out shopping and let them pick something they will enjoy.

  • Always stick up for them if they are telling you a story about work or their friends.  They like to hear that they were right even if they weren't.

  • Always keep your promises because that goes a long way.

  • Secretly plan a trip somewhere they have never been to before, but make sure they are free for a couple of days and DON'T TELL THEM WHERE THEY ARE GOING.  That makes it so exciting.  Bring along a blindfold to make it even better.

  • Always be yourself but be the best self you can be.  Let them be themselves too and try to learn more about the other.  No matter how long you two have been together, there will always be things you never knew about them.

  • Most importantly, make your partner laugh because laughter makes everything better.

  • Be naughty in the bedroom.  Do something completely different like dressing up, blindfolds, fuzzy handcuffs or a nice friendly whip.  Decorate the room with flowers over the bed with candlelight.  Role play and pretend your another person.  That's always fun.  At first its quite awkward but I'm sure you both will get use to it quickly.

  • Have fun with each other.  You picked one another for a reason so relax and just enjoy life together.

If you have any other suggestions or ideas please feel free to email me at or post a comment.

Leslie Star


  1. "Give the other a massage if they had a bad day at work or you just feel like giving a free one"... lol you normally charge your boyfriend money for your massages? I'm hoping hes getting a little more that a massage if you know what i'm sayin'.

  2. Also... I really like the pink heart graphic at the bottom. If I were you I would consider that as a tattoo or something. It's strangely mesmerizing.

  3. I agree that would be a cute tattoo