What Men & Women Should Wear To Meet The In-Laws

What To Pack When Meeting Their Parents

Eventually it will happen that your boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to meet their parents.

I want you to be prepared to make the best impression possible and to be prepared for anything.

Starting with... what to pack? What should you wear to make a good impression?

Please pack for how long you are going for and what location.


  • A couple of pairs of jeans/shorts only if it's hot
  • Some pearls (or fake ones) - pearls remind people of innocence
  • Bring two pair of earrings to go with all of your outfits
  • Shoes that are comfy but cute - like ballerina type flats/nice sandals
  • Bring pumps
  • Bring t-shirts that don't say anything rude on them like "I screwed your boyfriend"
  • A nice dress shirt that is fun and not too stuffy. This is your time to show off your personality
  • Bring either a longer dress/skirt or dress pants for a possible nice dinner out
  • Don't forget panty hose and nice fitting underwear so you don't have panty lines showing.
  • A nice trench coat. If you don't have dress coat then just don't wear bleached out, holes or stains on your jacket
  • Bring nice looking pajamas in case you are staying at their house.. You don't want them to see your torn up sweat pants


  • Bring a couple pair of jeans
  • Bring a couple of t-shirts that are in good shape and don't have profanity or wrestling on them
  • Comfy shoes like runners or loafers *make sure their clean
  • Bring pressed shirts and some under shirts
  • Bring a matching pair of pajamas
  • Dress pants, a dress shirt and a tie just in case your going somewhere fancy
  • A nice coat such as a leather or trench
  • A sports jacket
  • Buy some socks that don't have any holes in them
Pack a couple of things but don't go too crazy and you don't want to look like diva buy bringing too much luggage.

Make sure everything is washed and pressed before you meat the rents. They do notice everything.

I hope this advice helps and let me know if you have any more questions by commenting

Questions for a First Date

Q & A On Dating Rules

Dating can be amazing or it can be hell from the second you meet the other.  Even the whole process of dating is exhausting.

Especially if you don't know the rules of a first date.

Do I kiss them or do I wait?  To pay or not to pay?  Bring a gift?  Call her/him when I get home?

All these questions will soon be answered.  Please note that my blog is also talking about same sex relationships too :)

  • Question:  Should I open the door for her? Pull out the chair for her too at the dinner table.

  • Answer: Of course you should.  Every girl wants you to.  She should open the car door for you when you let her in first.  Either she should press the auto unlock button or do the reach over and pull up the handle.

  • Question: Do I bring her/him a gift?

  • Answer: Honestly I would think that if you were a girl going out with the guy perhaps something funny like silly putty, a comic book or mini digital camera.  Something useful but a bit comical.  Try finding out a bit about them before you meet so you can judge what they would like.  If you're a guy going out with a lady/guy you should bring something.  Either flowers, speciality chocolates/candies, or something unique like tickets to a band you think she/he would like.  There is fierce competition out there so don't be cookie cutter about it. You are probably not the only guy she goes out on dates with and if your really liking her make sure she doesn't pick someone else by being original.

  • Question: Should I drive with music on in the car with her?

  • Answer:  If you want to get any action you should.  :P She wants to know that you are up to date with music, a fun person, and what type of music you like.  Do NOT play it too loud that you can't carry on with a conversation unless the date is already off to a bad start.

  • Question: What should I talk about?

  • Answer: Talk about light hearted things, like what do you like to do, where you're from, what you do for a living and what are your friends like etc.  DO NOT TALK ABOUT DEEP ISSUES like you are just getting over a death in the family, you were abused as a kid or that you're a depressed self-hating individual.  Leave that type of talk until you've been seeing each other for at least a month. :)

  • Question:  Do I walk him/her to the door.

  • Answer: If your a girl then no as you should not be picking him up on the first date.. no matter what!  If you want to meet him at the place, sure..  but never pick a guy up, as men like a chase and usually they love their car.  If they don't have a car it's a bad sign.. TRUST ME FROM MY EXPERIENCES.  Nothing good ever comes from a guy not having a form of transportation.  Not even if he has a skateboard or bike.  If your a guy then yes.. walk her to the door.  A woman wants to feel protected.  Now don't screw this good feeling up by being creepy with her at the door.  If your going in for a kiss make damn sure she isn't going to push you away as that could be very awkward.  Feel it out during the night and see if she was flirting with you.

  • Question:  Do I go up to their place and have "coffee"?

  • Answer: The only coffee you will be having is the one that you grab at Starbucks in the morning after your walk of shame.  Anyone that will sleep with you on the first date will never work out.  Even the sex eventually won't be exciting any more because you have explored all that there is to explore.  If you want a one night stand I guess it will work out perfectly but don't do it if you're actually looking for someone to get into a real relationship with.

  • Question: How long do I wait to call them after the date?

  • Answer: Wait three days.  This way you can make the other person anticipate your phone call.  Men like to show women they are too busy to call them back but they are actually as afraid of rejection and judgement as much as women.

  • Question: When I call them back, do I ask them out right away?

  • Answer: If you like them then yes!  If they say no then you know to get back out there and try again.

If you have anymore questions email me at lesliestar@lesliestar.ca.

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