How To Deal With Rude People

Steps To Take To Make Them Back Off

Are you ever faced with someone that just gets under your skin 'cause they are so god da*med rude? 

I get faced with this on a day to day basis, as I am sure most of you do. 

Sometimes I would really just like to tell them what I think about them and slap them in the face.. but that won't get you anywhere I have learned.

The trick is to make them your best friend.  As my parents have always said.. " You get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar",which means that if your nice to others (even the bastards) you will attract more people.

I am in this situation now where this one guy is so rude to me and chooses not to say good morning to me or even acknowledged that I sit right beside him.  At first I was very angry with him and I questioned myself cause maybe I said something to offend him.  Just like right now when I was writing this he said "hi" to someone that just walked into the room but didn't say hello to me this morning.  GRRRR

I have decided that I haven't done anything wrong and he's just a complete asshole.  I have ignored him in the mornings too for a while now and decided not to say anything to him.  However I think that if I grit my teeth and actually be nice to him maybe that will work.

It really depends on how much you dislike this person.  I am not the type of person that will let anyone walk over me and treat me like shit, so not saying something is very difficult for me.

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Top 10 Tips on How to Make the Situation Better for Yourself

1. The next time someone does something to really annoy you or just make you feel low, take a breather and ask yourself if it's really worth ruining your day over.  In most cases it definitely won't be.  No one should ruin your day.

2. Simply try and avoid them at all costs.  If they really make you feel terrible and they are constantly bringing you down, just stay away from them completely.  You can still sit beside someone and pretend they are not there.

3. Don't take anything that they say or do seriously.  Do they really matter that much to you that they could make your day awful?  Just feel sorry for them because they are such jerks and move on.

4. Talk to your friends and family about the situation and ask them for advice.  I am sure that they have been in this situation before so they have more experience than you perhaps.  Your friends are there for you and wouldn't want you to feel bad so they will help you feel stronger and fight back with your words and hopefully not your fists cause that is not how you deal with it.

5. Sometimes people just have rotten lives and take it out on people and they don't even realize they are doing it, but if you think it's just about you then maybe they don't like you.  WHO CARES!! There is people that you don't like but you don't mess with them.  Maybe they just need to grow up and learn to handle the situation.. Perhaps they should read this article. :)

6. Feel better about being you.  Don't let little pests ruin your day.  If you feel more confident about yourself than little things like this won't bother you.  Go out and spend a night out with your friends and have a drink and go shopping.  Retail therapy always works for me!

7. Confront them.  If it is really bothering you and you feel this is the only way to let them know how they are making you feel then tell them.  You don't have to stoop down to their level or anything, just tell them how they make you feel.  You might not get anywhere with this because the person is so angry about something but at least they will know now to either stay away from you or treat you a little better.

8. Don't expect miracles.  A rude person is probably not going to suddenly be your best friend because you let them know they hurt your feelings. 

9. Be nice as pie to them.  This is another way to get around the situation.  FAKE IT!  I know this probably isn't going to make you feel any better but be so nice to them that they have to like you.  It makes them wonder why they never liked you to begin with.

10. These rude people have no class at all.  You know that you are a great person and no matter what happens keep your dignity and try not to look like the victim.  No one should ever make you feel bad about yourself.  Stand up for yourself but do it in a polite and firm manner.  Don't let the tough guys ruin your spirits.  Meditate for a moment and relax and drink some green tea or listen to your favorite song.  Try not to react right away as your emotions will probably get in the way.  Think about what you are going to say first before you react.  You will thank for me for that later..  :)

I hope I have helped you with these rude bullies.  If you have any more questions please email me at :)

1 comment:

  1. hi,

    thank you for this post! it's from a while back i see but still today i really needed to read something like this to pull my self back together :)