Tips -- Online Dating for Women

I have a LOT of experience with online dating and below is one of my interesting stories and 10 tips that I would like to share with only you about online dating.

I once went on a date with a guy that I met online. We had dinner and a few drinks and got the bill. He paid which was nice. We then went to another restaurant up the street to get appetizers and drinks as we were having fun and it was still pretty early.

After what I thought was great conversation, the bill came. He then asked me if I wanted to go home with him. When I told him 'No,' he said, 'then you can pay the bill.'

Needless to say, that was a horrible date.  I have been on a lot of horrible dates, which is why I now have rules about online dating as I have learned from my mistakes.

You can find love online and with a few of my tips I hope to make it a little easier for you.

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10 ONLINE DATING TIPS FOR WOMEN

1.  Never lie to yourself or compromise in what you want in someone.

2.  Get to know the person you are about to go on an online date with before you meet in person. You never know who you are meeting just from a computer screen.

3.  Don't show much skin as you want there to be a second date. Make sure whatever you wear is clean and doesn't have holes in it. Wear a black cocktail dress or a nice skirt and shirt combo or wear dress pants and a nice shirt.

4.  Be comfortable and try and remain calm. Do some breathing exercises and know that your date is just as nervous.

5.  Meet in a popular area and take your own transportation to and from the date. Suggest that they pick the activities.

6.  Don't talk about anything too deep. Try and keep the conversation light and try not to talk about yourself too often. You are on a date to meet a new person so try and find out about their personality.

7.  Let your date take charge and let them pay for your food. You deserve to be treated like a Queen.

8.  If you felt you had chemistry, send them a quick message online the next day or follow up with a text/phone call in a couple of days.

9.  If they do not call you back within a couple of days - they are not interested. Give up and don't call them or message them. If they wanted to get to know you, they would contact you.

10.  There are plenty of potential partners out there so don't be afraid to go on a different date every night of the week.

Why do Women ask "Do I look FAT in this?"

There are a number of reasons why women ask this question.  It might be puzzling and plain dumb to men but that fact is there is actually several reasons why.  The most important tip that I can give to men is never say, "YES YOU DO LOOK FAT!"  

If they do chunky in the outfit try saying.. "How about you try on that blue shirt that I love so much with that skirt."

 Reasons why women ask "Do I look FAT in this?"

They honestly want to know if they look frumpy or fat in the outfit.  If so they want to change into something else that their husband/boyfriend/friends would be attracted to.




They want to know that you think they are pretty.




Their self confidence is low and they want you to boost it up.  For example ... "Do I look fat in this?"... "Of course not honey you look fabulous."




They want to be reassured that they look as hot as they feel.  Sometimes women ask this to test their mate to make sure they give the right answer.  If they do look fat then lie, lie and lie some more.




They have recently lost weight and want to be told they look skinny.




They just want to mess with you.  Sometimes women test men just because they can.  They know men squirm at the thought of this question being asked and they want to see how they react.




They got a new outfit and they want to know what you think in case they need to take it back.




Women always want to look and feel their best.  Sometimes they really just need a "friend" to tell them what they want to hear cause they haven't invented a mirror that does that yet.

Women always have tricks up their sleeves.  We can't help it .. It just comes second nature to us to torment the men in our lives :)  We never usually ask our friends if we look fat in an outfit because they would probably tell us the truth.

Men have been trained for years to always say no to this question and never pause before they automatically answer NO.  It is important to have a relationship where you tell the truth but sometimes it is critical that they tell a little white lie. 

I hope I helped for next time you get asked this dreaded question. :)

Email lesliestar@lesliestar.ca if you have an interesting story of when you were asked "Does this outfit make me look fat"

Did I do something wrong?

Guys & Girls R From Different Planets

This message is for all of you that just can't understand your male mate. 

Does he become distant for no apparent reason and you think you did something wrong? 

Well you didn't. 

Does that ease your mind a little?

That happened to me many times and I always use to cry and get really upset because I didn't think I did anything wrong even though I thought I must have for him to do this to me.  Turns out they don't even think they are doing anything wrong!

Men like to go into their "caves" according to the book "Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus" and they tend to go into a zone where they just want to think about their problems and hide away.

This is not your fault!

The book also says that men are like "rubber bands" and when they have had enough affection that they need they tend to stretch as far away as possible and when they have left for as long as they can they bounce back more powerful then before and become way better than they were before.

Guys.. errrr

Don't ever think it is your fault when guys are being just plan stupid..

If you have anymore questions about guys or girls please do read  "Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus" because it really is a spectacular book and I wish that everyone would read it.  Or you could ask me by emailing me at lesliestar@lesliestar.ca because I have read the book.

Leslie Star

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