Another Online Dating Story - The "Strangler"

The story I am about to tell you tops my worst online date ever.

I met this guy named Joe.  He was super cute, had his own truck and looked well put together.  We went to a Sushi restaurant and as we were talking I asked him what he did for a living.  He said that he is currently not working as he was on sick leave.

I kept trying to dig a little further to find out what his profession was.  He eventually told me that he was an RCMP officer and was currently involved in a court case as he got into an argument with his boss.

I stopped talking about it for a little while as I saw it was making him super uncomfortable.  He paid the bill at the sushi place and we then decided to go to the beach.  We took separate vehicles as I didn't trust him enough to get into a car with him.

We met at the nearby beach and sat down on one of the benches and talked for a couple of hours. We found that we had lots in common.  After our conversation we decided to go and get a coffee to wrap up our date.  We met at Tim Horton's and he again paid the bill.  He then asked me to go home with him to see his barn. Yes, barn.. he lived in a barn.

I thought that was really weird and of course I declined.

After the date I went home and did some Google searching on him.  I found out that he was fired from the RCMP for violently attacking his boss and his fellow co-workers.  He allegedly attacked them because they called him a "fag" and he went ballistic.  He is literally known as "The Strangler".

I couldn't believe when I Googled his name the first image of him was him in court.   I would have never guessed he would have been so violent.

Needless to say, I have not had the best luck with online dating.  Learn from my mistake and try and get to know who you are going on a date with before you go.

 Joe - My online date

Tips -- Online Dating for Women

I have a LOT of experience with online dating and below is one of my interesting stories and 10 tips that I would like to share with only you about online dating.

I once went on a date with a guy that I met online. We had dinner and a few drinks and got the bill. He paid which was nice. We then went to another restaurant up the street to get appetizers and drinks as we were having fun and it was still pretty early.

After what I thought was great conversation, the bill came. He then asked me if I wanted to go home with him. When I told him 'No,' he said, 'then you can pay the bill.'

Needless to say, that was a horrible date.  I have been on a lot of horrible dates, which is why I now have rules about online dating as I have learned from my mistakes.

You can find love online and with a few of my tips I hope to make it a little easier for you.

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10 ONLINE DATING TIPS FOR WOMEN

1.  Never lie to yourself or compromise in what you want in someone.

2.  Get to know the person you are about to go on an online date with before you meet in person. You never know who you are meeting just from a computer screen.

3.  Don't show much skin as you want there to be a second date. Make sure whatever you wear is clean and doesn't have holes in it. Wear a black cocktail dress or a nice skirt and shirt combo or wear dress pants and a nice shirt.

4.  Be comfortable and try and remain calm. Do some breathing exercises and know that your date is just as nervous.

5.  Meet in a popular area and take your own transportation to and from the date. Suggest that they pick the activities.

6.  Don't talk about anything too deep. Try and keep the conversation light and try not to talk about yourself too often. You are on a date to meet a new person so try and find out about their personality.

7.  Let your date take charge and let them pay for your food. You deserve to be treated like a Queen.

8.  If you felt you had chemistry, send them a quick message online the next day or follow up with a text/phone call in a couple of days.

9.  If they do not call you back within a couple of days - they are not interested. Give up and don't call them or message them. If they wanted to get to know you, they would contact you.

10.  There are plenty of potential partners out there so don't be afraid to go on a different date every night of the week.

What NOT to do on a first date

Going on a first date with someone makes most people very nervous and they do things that they normally wouldn't do because they are terrified..

However there are certain things you don't do on a first date weather your nervous or not..

These are the Top Ten No No's On A First Date

1. Do not talk about your ex's.  This is so important because you are trying to start a new relationship and you are over your ex (Hopefully).  It is time to start fresh and you can't do that by talking about your ex lover.. So not attractive


2. Talking about sex.. Unless you both are slutty and you can sense it .. I wouldn't talk about sex your first date.  It will probably make your date very uncomfortable and it will turn them off completely or turn them on if they are horny.


3. Don't get drunk!  There is nothing wrong with having a couple cocktails or a glass of wine with dinner but don't order shots or drink like a fish all night.. I am sure that you are nervous but you will look like a complete mess by the end of the date and you will probably embarrass yourself or sleep with them and I guarantee you won't get a second date..


4. Don't grill the other person.  You probably have a million questions to ask them, but don't ask so many that it seems like they are in the interrogation room with the police.  Leave some mystery for the second date.


5. Do not bring your friends along.  A date is shared between two people.. If you bring friends a long it is soooo high school and your date will drop you like a hot potato.


6. If your a woman do not wear a short dress or skirt on your first date.  It will give the wrong impression and they will only want to sleep with you.  Wear some dark jeans with a nice blouse or a skirt that is just above the knees.


7. Turn off your damn phone.  Before you go out make sure you cell phone, Blackberry and other electronic devices are turned off.  Your date wants to feel like they are the most important person of the evening.


8. Don't go to a location where you know a lot of people.  You don't want your friends coming up to the table all night striking up a conversation.  Pick a quiet but fun place for the date and not your regular hang out.


9. Take cash out before your date.  If your a guy.. then you will be paying for the dinner and everything else for the evening.  If you don't pay then you are in fact a loser and she should get up and leave the table if you don't.  Don't pull this.. "I forgot my wallet at home.. or should we split this" bullsh*t.  YOUR PAYING so take some money out before in case they only take cash.


10. Don't talk the whole time.  I talk a fair amount when I'm nervous but try not to.. The night is about the other person so give them a chance to talk about themselves.  Don't be a name dropper either if you know a lot of people.. That is so unattractive and it looks like your trying too hard.  Be yourself because that is what will get you a new love interest. :)