How to tell your mate - "I Need Space!"

I Might Explode - I Need Some Space

I need some space

When your first in a relationship you tend to want to spend every waking moment with them and you want to get to know everything you possibly can about them. 

After a few months the "new car smell" fades and you now cannot get rid of them. 

How do you tell them?

It's not that you don't want to hang out with them anymore but you just need some space and some time to gather your thoughts.  You need time to get some things done that you have been putting off for waaaay too long.

Now if you are a woman saying this to a guy then you probably can just politely say that you need some space cause they don't tend to take things so personally.

If you are a guy however you may want to approach it a little differently. 

Perhaps tell her that you haven't seen your friends in a while and if she wouldn't mind if you went out with your buddies this weekend.  I believe that she will be more than happy to make her own plans. 

You have to approach women completely different then men.  Women are sensitive and mostly a pain in the rear.

You can also go about it that you need to get some chores done and praise her and tell her that she is amazing for letting you get your chores done without complaining. 

There is nothing wrong with wanting some alone time. 

Most guys want way more alone time then girls.

Women usually want to be surrounded with their boyfriends 24/7 and although they have good intentions the man probably feels smothered and unable to breathe and once they get past this point they seem to get all distant and then it totally wrecks the relationship.

Men enjoy the chase.  Once the chase is over they usually mentally quit and get bored and they want to break up or just turn into complete assholes. 

My advice to you is just be honest but try and sugar coat it as much as possible.  You can usually sense what is going to work on them. 

The best relationships need space and it is also very important to keep your friends close and not ignore them once you get a boyfriend/girlfriend. 

Friends are very important too and if you cast them aside and then you break up with your mate you will not have anyone because tossed them like garbage. 

You need those friends to help you get through the boyfriend/girlfriend breakup depression after you tell them you need more space.. Just kidding :)

If your mate is smothering and they don't seem to get the hint that you do need some breathing space then they probably not the best for you. 

It is important to spend some time away from the other to have an opportunity to miss them.  When you miss someone you appreciate them more and tend to love them more.

So ... Just approach it softly and tell me how it goes.. :)  Hope I helped!

Need Some Space?


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