Are You Cheating On Me?
I personally have been through a horrible situation in which I got massively cheated on .
So first hand know how bad it hurts to be lied to and treated like trash.
Cheating on someone is inexcusable.
It is the # 1 No No in my books.
Cheating is cowardly and assholish and I don't understand why it is necessary.
Is it the thrill or just because you are so pathetic and you don't have enough balls to break up with your partner first? I think that is what it is.
Looking back on that brutal situation I realize that there were so many warning signs but I kept putting them on mute.
My Warning Signs I Should have listened to
One of the signs was that he was always on the phone. All hours of the night he was talking to someone. At first I thought he had a lot of friends but I realized later on that they weren't just friends....
When he suddenly buys a new pair of shoes. Most guys wear their shoes into the ground before they buy new ones. They get comfortable and don't want to change it if it ain't broken. If a guy buys new shoes it means that they are trying to impress someone. I don't care what guys say.. this one is true..
I also noticed that he was trying to keep me from my friends a little bit. He would always say "oh.. how about me and you just hang out tonight" and it started to happen all the time and would almost make me try and feel bad for wanting to hang out with them.
He never looked my parents in the eye. My mom and dad use to think that was so weird.
He never wanted to talk about anything too deep cause I think it made him feel guilty of what he was doing behind my back.
Whenever he cheated he would buy me a present. I think he would feel bad and realize that he was a complete jerk so he thought he could buy gifts for me to buy my love I guess.
Also if they are really secretive. If they won't tell passwords or won't show their phone to you or anything. Some passwords are good not to share but silly ones just made me wonder.
Staying late at work is a huge sign. That is not to say that they wouldn't have to stay overtime sometimes but when you feel like something is up it probably is.
If they also act completely different or buy new smelling cologne/perfume. Also if they start to style their hair differently or shower more or start to keep an extremely neat house all the time.
If they are annoyed when you are around and it feels like they really don't want to be around you at all.
I know some of these signs might sound wack but believe me they are true.
Men/Women are usually pretty easy to figure out.
Trust what the inner you tells you and don't try and make it go away.
Think about yourself in this world and most importantly look after you. But try and listen to your friends and family because they are the ones that see it from an outside perspective.
They only want the best for you.
Trust them if they think something is up because 99% of the time they are most certainly correct!
The Way You Might Feel IF You Find Out
It always seems as if you are the last to know that you are cheated on. It is very embarrassing and you wonder how you never knew.
You are totally going to feel completely like shit. You might feel like shit for a long time and feel like your heart is litterly broken but trust me it will get better.
There is no feeling like being lied to and taken for a fool.
Don't let this ruin your life though. Once you have spent a couple of days in bed crying your little broken heart out get up and see it for what it was and move on. Pick yourself up and go get your hair cut or go to the mall with your friends.
Get yourself back!!!
Sometimes love can be very blinding but by no means try and blame yourself. Nothing you could have ever done would make someone else cheat on you.
They cheat because they want to and not because you did anything wrong.
Respect yourself enough to not put up with it. If they will cheat once they will do it again. Don't let yourself be treated that way.
There is someone for everyone and that someone would not do this to you.
You will only feel stronger once you break it off and don't go back. They will not respect you if you take them back.
If you are going through this situation and need to talk, email me at lesliestar@lesliestar.ca
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